A MUST READ for ALL Parents!!
75Yes, these Horrors DO exist!!
It really did start as a good thing.
In today’s state of affairs CPS workers (Child Protective Services) are coming into homes and taking children at an alarming rate. There are many things that can be said about CPS and most of them are not good. When CPS was first started it was designed for the betterment. Since we have learned and evolved in our parenting skills, we have become better parents.
Think it doesn't apply to you?
If you think that you are a good parent and they have nothing on you, think again. If you are a grand parent and think they can’t take away your grand children, think again. Look around your home, do you have wooden table? Anything with corners? Throw rugs? Sharp knives that are not locked away? Chemicals that are used for cleaning that are not under lock and key? Down to 1 egg in your egg tray? Do you have any enemies? Maybe a neighbor that is displeased with you? PLEASE read on!!
Social Security - YOUR money is being used!
Social Security? YES!
Two things are going on with CPS, first because we have become better parents they are needing to find justification for taking of children. The second, WHY do they need to take children? Because of the money involved. There is a LOT of money involved in children. Counseling for 'reunification' is no longer encouraged, in fact most often it is refused.
Our Federal Government is paying CPS to take children via Title IV D funding, or in other words Social Security. So when the day comes that you are told Social Security is broke and you are allowed no benefits, you will know this; All the money that you pay in each week goes, in part, to the removal of children from their homes.
Follow the money
Before I get into what is done with these children let explain the money. When a CPS worker becomes involved. Meaning when they open a case, the local office receives between $3,000 and $5,000 dollars per child - per month, from the Federal Government. The money just goes up from there. CPS can drag out cases for months. Then when they feel the money may be drying up from you (the client) they may take a good look at your children. Are they marketable? Are they cute, is it possible they can be adopted out?
What can and does happen
The first thing that can and does happen is you will be charged with something, anything. Please understand it does not have to be proven, not at all. The accusation is enough to remove your child/children. The most common charge is ‘failure to protect’. This can come from just about anything. After that, they can bring more charges and if they have made the 1st one, it is guaranteed they will come up with many others. NOT ONE CHARGE HAS TO BE PROVEN. A false accusation from ANYONE can bring CPS knocking at your door.
CPS workers are ‘above the Law’, there are no ramifications, no repercussions and they have no accountability. They are allowed BY LAW to say and do anything they please to take your children from your home. State Troopers LOVE to let CPS workers take charge because they do not have to have a warrant. All you have to do is open the door to them. Once they have entered your home, everything becomes suspect and they can and do remove anything they think they can charge you with. All without a warrant. Not only that, but you do NOT have to be read your Miranda rights.
More than likely you will be placed on the news with some sort of horror story that has been cooked up that will have you ostracized from the community. Your family and friends may turn against you because of the charges. Your spirit will be broken and all you will want is for ‘it to be over’, once you have come to that stage, they have you. You will do anything they tell you to do.
Former FBI Agent
What happens to the children?
What happens to the children? At first they may be allowed to live with family members, but that will be short lived. They may be moved from foster care to foster care, those children who don’t want to leave their parents are labeled as mentally unstable and usually placed on large amounts of medication. Some of these become ’The Throw away’ children. Once they have forced, coerced or threatened you to sign off your parental rights you kids will now be put up for adoption. Your family members will not be allowed to adopt them. Why? Because the State does not receive money for family related adoptions.
For each child that is adopted out, the State receives upwards of $85,000 from you guessed it, Title IV funding, or Social Security.
Some of these children are even sold to other Countries. For International adoptions the amount received is unknown at this point. It is kept very secret. A Former FBI agent is the one who discovered that this was happening.
What can YOU do?
There are several steps you can take to PREVENT your children from becoming targeted by CPS. Keep in mind the ones who are first targeted are relatively poor families. Being on any assistance can bring you unwanted attention. The second are large families, having 5 or more children will cause CPS to direct their attention your way. Because the amount of money that is involved, think about it, for 5 children they can get for your County between $15,000 and $25,000 per month, to start!! They particularly like to target 2 parent homes, because the children will be removed to foster care. If there is an ‘absent’ parent they are obligated to place the children in that home first, this will not net them any money so these families are over looked a lot of the time, even if ACTUAL abuse is noted.
1. The first thing you can do is put up a ‘No Trespassing’ sign on your property.
2. The next thing is a sign on your door “WARNING -ALL WHO ENTER ARE SUBJECT TO VIDEO SURVEILLANCE - YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED!! Make sure you have a camera that can record on hand.
3. NEVER open the door to a stranger! If someone comes knocking at your door, step outside to talk to them. If you invite them in, that is all that is needed.
Keeping them at Bay
ALWAYS make sure you write down their identity and badge number if they have one. If you can get them to sign their name that they visited that’s even better!
More than likely if you have those first 3 in place they will think twice about attempting to enter your property. If you force them to get a warrant then you will have a little more protection from the law. Not much, but some.
On to the ‘next step’. If you are having a hard time with your bills and your electricity is on ‘shut off’ you may be subject to being under scrutiny. In a home that has no electricity or one that is having a hard time keeping up with the bills, CPS will find a way to wiggle in. It is felt that electricity is a ‘necessity’ unless you can prove that you have a few things in place your children may be taken away.
Emergency supplies
Battery operated lighting, flash lights, or even hurricane lamps (provided the fluid is kept safe and put up out of the reach of children) are a good thing to have should your electricity be shut off. A small propane cook stove (can be found in the camping gear area of your local Walmart). Bottled water. Water sanitizing tablets. Canned food, with non electric can opener. Powdered eggs (if you can find them) and powdered milk. A first aid kit. Extra blankets or sleeping bags. Think ’Disaster’ when implementing these types of things in your home. Keep them separate from your ’regular’ things, in a closet or storage area that the kids can’t get into. If a CPS or DHS worker comes into your home, you can show them your preparedness.
Keep a log and RECORD everything
If you MUST talk to them, make sure they are recorded! Make sure that you keep a log of ALL visits. It is a guarantee they will not want this. NEVER sign ANYTHING without first consulting with an Attorney. Always, always remember your 5th Amendment right!!!! The right to remain silent, UTILIZE this!!! They will threaten you, “If you don’t talk to me, I promise you will never see your children again”. Get this recorded or in writing. It is a PROMISE that anything you say WILL be used against you, no matter what you say!
In most cases when there is a false accusation a number of your civil rights are being abused. Find a Civil Rights Attorney, if you can’t afford one see if they will take your case pro-bono. This will be a ‘Civil’ case, an Attorney WILL NOT be provided for you, you MUST provide your own. IF you are charged with Criminal charges, then you will be provided with an Attorney if you cannot afford one. Both Civil and Criminal are two different cases and WILL NOT be combined.
Children or Puppies?
In the State where I live there is a website that has been created for those wishing to adopt children. It is a site where pictures of children are displayed with a bio describing the children. Most of the parents that I have talked to regarding this site are horrified because it gives the impression that the children are being auctioned off to the highest bidder. If your looking for a puppy then might you not do the same?
The first Senator to bring these horrors to light has been murdered. Her name is Nancy Schaefer. It was tried to be covered up as a murder/suicide, not many believe it.
About Me
Many of you who have read my Hubs know that I am ALL ABOUT the children. I still am, more than ever. I am making a stand, using my voice. I realize that I am putting myself on the line with this Hub. Please, please do not disregard this Hub, it is very serious. Pass it along, the more we make aware of what is going on the more likely we can do something about this travesty.
Still not a Believer?
For those of you who are still skeptical of what I am saying go visit ‘you tube’ and type in CPS in the search bar, a multitude of various video’s will pop up. On face book there are MANY various sites that are trying to get help for parents who have had their children removed. Go to Google and type in Legally Kidnapped. There are many sites that can use your support, one day you may be on the chopping block from CPS, if you are prepared then you will begin to know where to turn.
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You may want to also check out www.familycourtnetwork.com. They are trying to build one web site where parents can go and be connect to all the web site, blogs, author, business etc.... dealing with the corruption of the family court.
Sweetsusieg you are absolutely correct and I stand behind you 1 million %. CPS does not do their job correctly in any state as far as my opinion and experience goes. They are like vampires...once you let them in you can't get rid of them...(except with vampires you can order them away.) They will come into your home, interogate you and your children, try to trick you into saying something wrong, and then totally try to ruin your life. They do not wish to help you in any way shape or form. They just want to destroy your perfect family.
If your children are happy and well taken care of they will strike. If there are children who are in need of help they will walk right on past them for the more suitable looking child. It is a shame. I am glad you wrote this hub. I wrote about my experience with CPS and it wasn't pretty. More and more need to take a stand against them. Thank you so much for writing this!!!!
Any link that you want to put on here, feel free to do so. The more information we have for our readers, the better!
@ Jill - Girl, I'm right there with ya!! No I am not concerned for my kids, they are all over the age of 18 at this point. I do have grand children, no they are not in the bullseye of CPS, but with what is going on, anyone could be at any time!
In the first youtube video you will see the CPS handbook that tells them what they should do. It is certainly a heart breaking video!!
Absolutely horrifying! I have three daughters and I would DIE if they were taken away from me.
The sad part is, when they take away the children, the Mom's of course lose a little sanity, this is used against them. For the oddest reason CPS workers seem to think that we parents SHOULD be ok with them taking our children! When we aren't, we are labeled as mentally ill.
I actually had an acquaintance post on Facebook that CPS took her kids for an 'untrue anonymous report'. I remember thinking "Well you did something to put you on their radar..." Now I feel awful for being so judgmental!!
Yes, it is running rampant!! CPS gone wild is a true statement!! This just came in - the report from above when I stated where the money comes from (not amounts of course) but the fact that the money DOES come from Social Security.
At this point, don't feel bad. You could not have known what was going on!! Take a stand. Now you are coming to a realization that these things are happening, take a few minutes to look of the different stories that abound on the Internet. Find a 'group' in your State that you might be able to help support. Even if it is finding and giving information.
Helping to locate State Representatives and Senators for those who are in need will be a huge helping hand! Holding (or helping with) rally's in your area for families who are needing help in fighting to keep their kids will be a big help.
Ask them, 'What can I do to help'? MOST of them will first ask for a prayer!!
I have volunteered my services for writing. I have been told a time or two that I have a way with words.
Our children, the children of this Country NEED your help and support.
I have passed this information on. I have seen where some children were needed to be removed from their homes due to abuse, but were not. I haven't come across any children that were removed the way you discribed here, but that doesn't mean it isn't happening here. I don't have to worry about my children, since they are over 18, but I have many siblings that have children. I am sure they will want to know about this. Thank you for taking the time to make us aware of what is going on!
Not a problem!! Thanks for passing it on, the more awareness we can get the better. My kids are all over 18 as well, but they have children so I am advocating for them as well.
Today I spoke with a lady who is desperately trying to get custody of her Grand children, the state is giving the appearance of trying to brainwash the children against her. She has mountains of evidence against the state and is waiting for the time to be able to present it. You would think that the State would want to keep the families united as best as possible, bit it is not happening. There isn't money to be made if they give the kids to family members.
Child Protective Services is a blatant misnomer. As you point out so well, susie, that federal/state government boondoggle benefits everyone involved BUT the child. And the felony is compounded by funding it with Social Security dollars. Disturbing and disgusting.
Will post to Facebook to alert others.
Thanks drbj!! You are my hero! I attended a Committee meeting today at our State Capital, it was GREAT!! first time I've ever entered the building. Second, it was interesting the way they held their meeting. I'm attempting to make a change, this is too big to do alone, the corruption gone too deep, it is going to take an act of Congress to make the changes we as parent are looking for. But we have to start somewhere, I'm just getting on the bandwagon.
Wow, this is really disturbing stuff, that's just dreadful that your children can be taken away so easily.
Thank you for bringing this to peoples attention.
How disturbing - Here in the UK we have a similar organisation called Social Services, however they seem to fall on the opposite side of the fence and fail to protect vulnerable children even when the evidence is overwhelming.
It never ceases to amaze me how government bodies can put monetary interests over that of a child and family.
Well done for bringing this issue to light and good luck with your campaign.
@ Movie Master - You wouldn't think that it would be so easy, but we have a Representative that is trying to change the wording within the DHS documents, the wording is too broad. One of the statements is 'any parent or guardian who causes a child harm.' When put on the spot and asked if "Say for instance a bruise was left on a child buttocks from a spanking, is that harm"... The officials at DHS said, 'Yes'.
@ Chablis345 - There are still quite a few children here that also are in desperate need of intervention. The sad part is those children don't bring any money into the mix, so nothing is done. It seems those that are fought over in custody battles are pushed to the side.
Dominick Calhoun is one of those cases, I have written an article about him.
As far as the UK, there are several cases on youtube that you will find, the children being taken from the parents.
We need to put a halt to this madness - the taking away of our children, they are not commodities that are to be bought and sold!!
Fortunately, I am not aware of anything like this going on in the UK. This is very shocking that CPS are actually doing this, splitting up families for no good reason. It really is very disturbing. I just hope that people read your hub and implement some of your suggestions. Voted up and useful.
It's all in the money. There is big money from the selling of children. There is one other thing that I really should put in this hub, regarding Guardianship. If a parent places guardianship in place BEFORE CPS has a chance to step in, at least the children can remain within the family unit. Such as other family members, close friends etc. Making it extremely difficult for CPS to take them away, not impossible, just more difficult.
I'm trying to find old laws that are in place to help some of these parents to fight to keep their kids. Most Attorney's have forgotten these laws.
When hiring an Attorney, no matter what you pay, most Attorney's can't or won't take the time to look up laws that help their clients. I think some of them actually sit in amazement afterwards that they lost the case.
As a client in order to help your Attorney you actually need to bone up on the Laws and do the leg work for them. Generally by the time a case is finished, for those who have helped their Attorney, the only thing a client needs an Attorney to do is argue the case.
I believe in the UK one case made the news. A child who was overweight was taken from the parents. Because there are so many different cases and they are all over, I can't remember where they are all from. I know there are several in the UK and Canada.
Here is a youtube video for 'baby LK' it is a weekly report of the news dealing ONLY in child welfare. Take a couple minutes and watch.
Oh my, this is quite shocking- the thing is that bad handling of cases just to make money gives every parent a reason to speak out as " I am a fine parent" at times the CPS must get kids out from destructive parents but because they have a bad reputation people wont believe they have done the right thing.
We do have cases in the UK and the Social Services are usually too quick to act but for cases where they should act such as Baby Peter ( a little boy who died) they are too slow,
I think they need humanity, common sense and no dependance on funding per child "rescued"
Amen!! From your lips to God's ears!! Take away the money and then maybe we can really rescue those children who need it!! I have written about a child who was basically overlooked by CPS because there was no money to be made. No money is exchanged when one parent gets the child over the other, so they get put on the back burner.
I'm not saying that all parents are the best, heck I've surely seen some questionable ones!! But does being poor mean we should take away the children? There are so many reasons that CPS can take away kids... They can take away a child for saying "I have cause to believe that this child will some day be abused'... No reasons, just 'cause to believe'...
We need to have a sit down and figure out what is best for the kids, not how to line our pockets with more money.
Here is our family's situation. Follow the money is correct. Our son received his first SSI check and was taken. All on a malicious report. All of our evidence is audiotaped. The entire system is corrupt. Our website www.bringingryanhome.com Evidence does not matter if the entire process from Taking the kids (DSS attorney and social workers )to handing the money over (SSI)to the judge----------- is in on the gig!
I just checked out your website, so Ryan is still not home? He is legally an adult but due to his conditions still is in need of care? There are a few avenues but more than anything you need to make some NOISE. Start contacting your State Representatives. Call them, write letters. Join groups within your area, if they have rally's go to them. Get as much help as possible!!
Have family members, friends co-workers, anyone you can think of to write letters, flood the mail, in boxes of those Representatives and Senators in your State. Start a petition, pass it around have the petition go to as many Representatives that you think would help. In every state there is a book that is printed out at the State
Capital, it is a guide to State Gov't, in it you will find every elected official within your state including your Governor. Each Representative has a 'committee' that the/she is on. Look for the ones who deal in Human Services, make sure those names are on the receiving end of the petition.
Several members of different sites have begun to post the names and numbers of those CPS workers who are stealing children, because in reality that is what they are doing, stealing children from loving homes.
Lastly, because your son is an adult now he is able to get an Attorney. Now it is time to bring a lawsuit against CPS and your County. Help him do this.... It's time we parents make our Gov't realize they are no longer going to be stealing our children.
Here is my petition that I started. Take a look at it, read the 'about' then read the 'letter' so you can get an idea of how to put one together.
http://www.change.org/petitions/return-michael-ter
Best wishes to you in your fight, I know you will never give up!! God Bless!
amazing hub, thanks
You are welcome! Thanks for stopping by!
A lot of work went into this; I can tell. Early in our life as a family, Mrs. Smith and I homeschooled our daughters. For years I lived in fear of government intervention. We kept up with it (with a few threats but little trouble) until the girls went off to college. They've turned out to be fine young women. We had the support of the Homeschool Legal Defense Association-- http://www.hslda.org/
Good hub. Thanks.
This is TRUE!!! Yes, they did not want homeschooling to happen, why? Because they couldn't keep tabs on the kids! It still is happening today, you have to jump through hoops to be able to home school your child. There is now paper work to be filed etc. If you don't do what they want, they will turn you in for truancy!! It is happening all over.
I am learning more and more everyday. Each week there is a Youtube video that is dedicated to reporting all of the problems that are happening in the news involving children. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fMxclVDQ5r8
Thanks for stopping by!
This is very scary stuff Susie!
I checked out the website for the auction and felt grieved. Being sad for those parents who had their child taken away is an understatement. This would anger anyone.
If this is true, and based on the evidences you've provided, I can tell this is true, then I have one word to describe them - MONSTERS.
Thank you for giving this information. This is a must known thing for all parents. OMG!
Voted it up!
It is very scary indeed!! There are a couple of facebook groups that I belong to, one is called Michigan For Parental Rights. I'm sure there is one in your area as well, that helps deal with CPS, gives advice and for some just a shoulder to cry on. There are so many private 'adoption' agencies that profit from the buying and selling of our children that it would boggle the mind!
The thing of it is, it's not just in the US that this is happening to. Although with our laws it's much easier to do.
Thanks for stopping by!! Thanks for the vote up as well!!
It's shocking but not that hard to believe. I know a lot of families have had something similar happen, so i know it's a fact. They pray on the one's that they think aren't educated enough or brave enough or especially don't have the money to do something about it. It's so f'd up. makes me so mad!!
It's getting so bad, I feel very sorry for the up and coming families! I have grand children of my own and it terrifies me.
Thanks for stopping by!!
I knew nothing about this. It was a very, very good hub. I have a relative, whose child has been placed into different fosterhomes. The child doesn't seem to get any help at all. It's terrible. Now the child's father has contacted a lawyer to get help, and I'm sure that will cost a lot of money.
It is no longer about the well being of the child, it's how much money DHS can get from them. I wish your friend luck, if he can get a civil rights Attorney that might be best. It's going to be a long road ahead, but if he can join ANY support group, they will help him with the who's and where's to go to. Some Attorney's are now doing 'class action' suits against DHS for their crimes against children.
This hub has drained my emotions and caused my BP to rise. I am NOT a fan of CPS. Approximately a year ago, we had a case locally, where a young mentally-challenged girl died at the hands of her "demented and morally bankrupt mother and brother" who had abused/neglected this child for years. Reports went in by the score, to include MEMBERS OF THE FAMILY, neighbors and law enforcement. In this case, (contrary to the outrageous CPS actions in your hub).....these so-called "case workers," failed miserably. The uproar of the public and media frenzy literally shook the entire County....and IT SHOULD HAVE. The only positive that came of this, is that eyes were opened and action was taken. In fact, there are pending actions as a result of this, to this day. I have no difficulty believing every word you've shared here. And God forbid we ever forget Jaycee Dugard! THANK YOU.
When I wrote this Hub it horrified me. As I was doing research I never imagined the extent that the State would go to steal the children. The more I looked the deeper it went. Even so far as to the point of murder. A US Senator was murdered because of her 'outting' CPS in her state. More and more people are standing up and telling what they know. There are law suits in the making in many states. In my home State of Michigan we have Representatives that are looking into these stories. DHS is on the chopping block and are being watched very carefully and yet it isn't stopping them from continuing.
We can never forget those who have suffered!
I met my husband in April of 2010, coming into our relationship I had 2 children of my own, he had 1 child who he had temporary custody and guardianship of for 6 years. Coming into the relationship, was the best thing to ever happen to all of us. We all grew into a happy home. I want someone to hear our story. This is the only way I know how. My step sons name is Bubba. He was a child that six years ago, his real mother, asked my husband to baby sit, and she never came back. At that time my husband went to court to get temporary custody and guardianship of Bubba. The biological father agreed to it. A little history on the mother, she has been in jail several times, she has a major drug history, and a major alcohol history. She only called Bubba once every few months, and talked to him any where from 26 seconds to a minute and a half. The only reason she called, was to benefit her. She goes from home to home, she would call asking for money, asking for a place to live, and each time we would tell her no. Then she would start problems for us, calling the police telling them we were abusing her son, or things worse than that. That’s just a brief summary of the issues with her. The biological father of Bubba was never in the picture. In the time frame I have been with my husband, he has only ever called one time. Now a little bit about Bubba, he is a problem child, before I came a long, he began having issues, with lying, stealing, disrespecting adults, and being a bully, beating on other kids smaller than him. These problems progressed with him. And we asked for help several times, but no one would ever help us. Last August, 2010 Bubba developed a blood condition, called ITP. ITP is when your blood platelet count goes so low, that you could bleed to death. Bubba was hospitalized with it. His were supposed to be in the 350,000s and his was only 1000. This condition, can be a day by day issue for some children for a minimum of 6 months, but can last a life time. Well with Bubba, his issue has lasted for more than a year now. Last September Bubba had got into trouble at school so much, lying, stealing, and beating up kindergarteners that we grounded him. Bubba from recently being hospitalized still had bruises from his blood vessels bursting all over his body. He was given the idea, from a previous partner of my husband’s to tell his school he was being abused. That if he would tell them that, he wouldn’t be in trouble any more. So he did tell them. The school had already known about Bubba’s blood condition, and they called Children and Family Services and told them he was being abused. They did not tell Children and Family Services about Bubba’s medical condition. They came out and did their investigation, to later find us not guilty of abuse, after receiving the medical information, and talking to our friends, and Bubba’s doctors. Children and Family Services sent us an apology letter for this incident. As Bubba’s third grade year went on, after them coming to our house, his behavior worsened. He got into more fights and got more disrespectful. So the school put him into behavior counseling, and did behavior charts with him. Now let me add, that my step son, is very smart, he knows how to manipulate people, he was tested to be put into gifted classes, but he could not be put in because of his behavior. Bubba is to smart for his own good. Summer came along, and we all did great. We got Bubba’s behavior back on track and he was a happy go lucky kid. Bubba had to be treated with an IVIG two different times over that time period because of his ITP. Bubba started fourth grade in 2011 and it was a great start. He had a few weeks where he was an angel at school, but then it went down hill. Bubba began getting out of his seat, trying to tell the teachers how they should run their class room, beating up other kids and stealing their snacks from them, lying, stealing books and other stuff from other students, it went on from there and kept getting worse. We took Bubba to our local juvenile detention center where we talked to the lead investigator. The lead investigator tried to scare Bubba and let him know there are consequences for his actions, well let me just say that it did not affect this child at all. As the school year went on, the investigator we had talk to him, helped us get Bubba back into counseling. Let me add that, Bubba has been previously evaluated by psychiatrists and been in counseling before; this wouldn’t be his first time in. I took Bubba to counseling once a week every week, and even his counselor saw his disrespect and his impulsive behavior. Well, here is coming to the issue. Bubba had been told, by his school nurse, if you do not like your punishment at home, to tell her, and she would get him out of it. He was also told by his school principal that if he did not like his punishment at home, that they could get him out of it and put him in an adoption center. Now remember how smart I told you Bubba is… The week and a half before Christmas break, Bubba went crazy bad at school. Thursday he stole a child’s lunch and lied about it, Friday he did the same thing, and Monday he got into a fight at school, in the bathroom with another child who had been kicking him in his legs. Well guess what happens, Bubba claims he is being abused at home. And guess who comes knocking on our door on December 16th, 2011, Children and Family Services. Well, here’s the story, they came out and said that they examined Bubba two days before hand and found bruising that should not be on the child. They showed us pictures of these bruises, which we knew nothing about. They showed up, with the thought we were guilty, Bubba had said my husband beat him. Bubba’s punishment was he was not going to do anything on our trip to PA, to go see my family. He wasn’t happy with it. They came out, and before Bubba even talked to myself or my husband, he talked to the case worker outside and told them that he wasn’t being abused, that the kid had kicked him and that is where he got the bruises, and that his principal told him if he didn’t like the punishment, that they could get him out of the home, and into an adoption center, and that he wanted to go to an adoption center. Children and Family services left, and we talked to Bubba, and he said that he would just run away if they didn’t take him. So for the child’s safety, we called them and told them to come get him and we signed him over to the state. Well, we have had nothing but problems from them the entire time; they were treating us like we were guilty, when WE SIGNED Bubba out of the home. We had to be evaluated, we had to provide all the documents on Bubba’s behavior, his medical records, everything. We proved to them it was not abuse, and Bubba even told them it wasn’t. We went to court, and the judge, put children and family services in their place. And thanked my husband for taking care of a child that was not his for as long as he has. We had planned a reunification with Bubba, if the state agreed to help us with his behavior problems. Later we received the paper from the judge stating that, children and family services came out one day beforehand coming to our house, not two like they said. Now, note, with Bubba’s condition if bruises appear on his body, they are to immediately to contact us, as parent’s or call 911, to have his blood count checked, both times the school claimed abuse, and did not do what they should of done. I would also like to add that they said, the bruises were a week old (before his fight at school), but Bubba was examined right after his fight on Monday at school, and no bruising was found. Also, the paper that said we signed him out of the home because of his behavior, not because of abuse found. As time goes on we waited for the court date. We were blocked communication from Bubba, because I got into an argument with the case worker. The foster parents had called us, asking us about Bubba’s history, and his behavior complaining of the things he was doing, because they were provided no history on Bubba when he was dropped off. The foster parents told the case worker I was harassi
The foster parents told the case worker I was harassing them and yelling at Bubba, and also that he was being forced to call me “mama.” Bubba has been calling me mama for about a year and a half now by his choice. He begged to, but we told him no, until my husband and I got married. So after October 14th, 2010, Bubba was allowed to call me mama, only if he wanted to. We waited for him to ask, and he asked and we said yes. The argument with the case worker was that she called me accusing me of these things, with no intention, of letting me tell her I’m sorry mam, but I can prove these people wrong. She wouldn’t let me speak, and then she spoke to my husband, told him Bubba shouldn’t be calling me mama, because I am not his mother. My husband replied, so I am not his father, he shouldn’t be calling me dad? She had no reply. She then blocked our communication with Bubba. As time continued we waited for our court date, which happened a few days ago. We went to court, they found Bubba’s biological parent’s they were there. While we were in with the judge, they started going on with the case, and when the custody papers were brought to his attention, he looked them over and saw they had expired. We had no idea those papers could expire. We were then told we have no legal right to the child, and to move to the back of the court room. We were also told, if we wanted to get custody back of Bubba, we would have to come back to court in 10 days, with an attorney, to file for custody of Bubba. Which we just can not do, we do not have the money to do so. The judge told us, he could not appoint us attorneys because we were not the biological parents. Then we went to the back of the court room, and he asked the biological parents to get up and come up. They did. In doing so, they started their lies and drama they always have tried. Well, the mother did. She then asked if he could see Bubba on that day. The judge told her no, that they haven’t been in his life, for the last 6 years, he has to look out for what is best for this child. The biological parents also were told they could get Bubba back if they would like but they would have to be investigated. They said they would want him back, now keep in mind Bubba’s biological mother is still drinking, doing drugs, has another child who she has not had in her custody two times now, and only wants Bubba back so she can collect food stamps, cash assistance and child support. The biological father’s girlfriend would never allow Bubba in their home, she has already stated that, and we know the father doesn’t really want him back either, he just appeared there to put on a show. The judge told them, that he could appoint them an attorney because they are his biological parents (HOW FAIR IS THAT RIGHT THERE, HE CANT GIVE THE PEOPLE WHO TOOK CARE OF HIM FOR SO LONG AN ATTORNEY, BUT HE CAN THE PEOPLE WHO ABANDONED THE CHILD AND HAVENT BEEN THERE.) The judge told them, that if it was not for this man in the back, feeding Bubba and taking care of him, (meaning my husband) for the last six years this child would be dead. The judge said, I bet neither of you paid child support, did you? I started shaking my head no. And the judge looks at them, and they said no. The judge said, we will be getting all records to see everything. The judge then set the next court date, and ended the hearing. Pretty much, we have no legal rights to Bubba any more. We can NOT do anything to get him back, because he can not get legal aid, and we can not get a court appointed attorney, and we can not afford to get an attorney with in the next, now 8 days. We lost him. Bubba is in a foster home now, where he will stay until he either is placed back with his biological parents or put up for adoption. Of course, Bubba loves it there because he is free to do what he wants, and he is out of trouble and he thinks that he is just going to have everything handed to him now. This is exactly what is going on.
The abuse case has not been closed that we know of yet, but no charges have been pressed as of yet. They still have two weeks to finish their investigation. We are still working on finding out information about that. There was never any abuse. Our problem is this school neglected to tell them of his medical condition, the state knew about it, but still proceeded with this whole thing and no one out of the school, the state, or Bubba’s stories match up. We have provided everything to show it, we have done everything, but we still lost Bubba.
The reason I am writing this is unknown to me, I guess because maybe it’s a way for me to be able to heal from this. Bubba was my son. Maybe not by blood, but he was mine. And I love him to death, and I can not talk to him, I can not call him tomorrow to wish him a happy birthday. I can not see him, and it’s tearing me apart. I miss him!! My husband say’s everything happens for a reason. And if we did get Bubba back now, it would be worse than before because of everything that has happened. I understand all that, and maybe this is for the better. I just don’t know what to think or do right now. I am beyond depressed. My heart is aching for this child. I do not know what is going to happen to him. I do not want him to end up back with his biological mother. I know there is nothing I can do now, but I’m still going through all these things in my head and for one second I can not get them to stop! Maybe sharing this with you all will help me heal. I don’t know. We went through hell over all this the past few weeks, and it’s even worse now that we know Bubba is not coming back here…
I am so sorry for you. Yes, I do understand the pain your are going through. I had opened my heart and home to a child only to have him ripped away from me after 2 years. (I am not permitted to write his story)
My oldest son was very manipulative and I went through hell and back with him over the years.
His biological parents are going to be in a world of poop with that boy. It takes a special person to be able to deal with the heartbreak a child such as Bubba will give. Keep up the hope though!! The Judge MAY decide in your favor! He may decide that you are in the best interest of the child. You might also be able to petition the Court for visitation rights as well.
I think the school was negligent in what they did. You should have been notified after he was injured given his condition.
I hope that all of this will work out for the best.
Bless you, you will be in my prayers.
very interesting hub. thanks
You are very welcome!
Great tips for parents. Thanks for sharing this information. Voted up and useful
The sad part of it is - it's getting worse as the says go on. The more I read the more horrified I become at what we are coming to in this Country as well as others.
Deanna Kloostra 8 months ago
Michigan CPS is out of control. I started a web site to work with mothers whose children are being given to the abusive father and ended up finding mothers who are single fighting to keep their children from CPS. Check out my web site that educates mothers on the family court system at www.abusedswan.com.